Izzy’s County Fair


For those of you that aren’t on Facebook I wanted to be sure you knew about our big celebration coming up in a few weeks. For those of you that are, I’m super sorry you’re hearing about it for the third or fourth time. 😉

We want to celebrate how far SHE has come and thank YOU for walking this journey with us. There will be dinner and dessert, carnival games and a special crowning of the Fair Queen! (Gee, I wonder who that could be??) And, yes, everything is free. If you can cone please RSVP by emailing me at mollymattocks@yahoo.com. 

Blessings on you today and LIFE for IZZY!

P.S. This is her general take on life right now – can you blame her?

The Purple Heart

The following is a blog post from December 22, 2012 entitled –
The Star Slinky Photo:


This past Spring when I got a new cell phone I was careful to make sure they could transfer all my old pictures over. Of particular interest to me was a photograph I have come to treasure. I didn’t care how great of a deal they could make me on a phone, if my pictures couldn’t come out of the store with me I didn’t want it. Mostly because of one photo I had failed to save on my computer. The Star Slinky Photo.

It’s not the kind of picture that you’d normally frame. There are no coordinating outfits, no bashful smiles, no captured laughter. In fact, there are no people at all. It’s not a picture that will take your breath away because it’s composed of two things you could find most anywhere. But even though you could find both items easily, it’s not a picture you could ever re-create because it’s not what is seen that makes it so special. It’s what is unseen. This is a picture of innocence, it’s a picture of stability, it’s a picture of peace.

I took this picture last year on December 22nd, the night before we were told Izzy had cancer. When I was standing on the opposite side of the lens I had no idea that it would be one of the last recorded moments of peace I would have for a long time. We had just put both kids to bed and were getting ready to watch TV when I went to the fridge. I opened the door and, to my surprise, found someone had left a star shaped slinky on the top shelf right next to the milk. Laughing, I took a picture on my phone and posted it on Facebook. Why wouldn’t there be a star slinky in the refrigerator?

This is a picture of innocence. When this picture was taken I didn’t yet know of the darkness that had invaded my daughter’s body. Her tiny frame was yet to be cut into, or poked and prodded daily. That night, cancer still didn’t have a name in our house. There were never parts of the disease that had been vaguely explained or parts of it that had been avoided completely when talking to young ears. When I took this picture it had never occurred to me that I might outlive one of my children.

This is a picture of stability. This picture was taken on a typical Thursday night in our home. I would have come home late and Kendrick would have been cooking dinner. I’m sure the kids were busy chasing each other around the house when I walked through the door. Too busy to pay much attention to me or to remember leaving a star slinky in the fridge. When this picture was taken we were a normal family with a normal life just like you. Our kids saw each other everyday. And they knew they would see their parents everyday too. When I took this picture my words were worth something. If I said I would see them tomorrow, I was good for it.

This is a picture of peace. Another thing you can’t see in this picture is that my kids were tucked away quietly in their beds down the hall. Kids whose biggest fears were things I could promise to protect them from. Things like spiders who could be squished with a shoe and darkness that could be illuminated by a nightlight. When I walked away from the fridge and sat down on the couch to unwind, I sat in peace. No matter what kind of day it had been, I now know sitting there in that moment was peace compared to any of this. I want to remember what it felt like to be the woman taking that photo, sitting in that peace. I wish I could tell her to stay awake a little while longer and bask in it. She had no idea what was about to happen to her world when she woke up the next morning.

I am not, nor will I ever be, the same woman I was the night the Star Slinky Photo was taken. None of us will be. For better or worse, cancer is still changing us. And, yes, I believe that when we make it out on the other side of this we will be restored, but that restoration is necessary because this journey is so damaging and so depleting. For the past year I have looked at this picture with desperation wanting to go back to this one moment in time. Now I’m ready for a new picture.

I don’t need, nor do I want, a picture of this journey. Lord knows I will remember every stone along every inch of the way. But when it’s over, perhaps the day after our last treatment, I plan to take a new picture. I’m ready to start thinking about what I might see in that one. I’m learning that journeys like this take your heart and stretch it out, leaving a deeper capacity for feeling. Along the way my heart is gaining a greater capacity to feel sorrow, but it’s gaining a a greater capacity to feel joy as well. I’m choosing to believe that whatever beauty is captured in the second picture, there will be exponentially more of it than the beauty that was in the first.

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A few hours ago Izzy and I made it home from the hospital from our last treatment. The kids are off playing, almost as if the past year and a half never happened. But because I am no longer the woman that took the Star Slinky Photo I know that it did. True to my word I have taken a photograph for today. A simple one, whose inspiration comes from a place deep inside my soul.


When Izzy began treatment she started receiving Beads of Courage for every event along the journey. A yellow glass bead, for instance, represents an overnight stay in the hospital – we have well over two hundred of those.  A red glass bead is given every time a child receives a blood product – we have over fifty. This system of accumulation is, of course, only as accurate as a parent’s memory. Bead sheets are turned in weekly and usually by the end of the week I can hardly remember what we did the day before so I think it’s safe to say we are missing a few.

Upon diagnosis we were given a few beads to get her collection going which included a bead for each letter of her name, a Cincinnati Children’s Hospital bead and a bead that represented diagnosis. The diagnosis bead is an silver anchor and I have hated it since day one.  Anchors represent sinking or being tied down. What a horrible way to reiterate how somehow already feels about their cancer diagnosis. My first instinct was to throw out the damn bead to be totally honest with you. I was furious when someone handed it to us and said ‘this represents your diagnosis’ with a smile. But it was not my bead so I let her keep it.

Most people actually place all of their beads on a string with the diagnosis bead as the first one. We did not do that because I did not want that anchor symbolically holding everything tied down. In fact, after a few months I talked Izzy into getting rid of the string all together and began to place all of her beads in a glass vase. She thought it was fun and I loved to see her accomplishments drown the anchor. My favorite views of the vase are those when the anchor cannot be seen at all.

When she was at her sickest, during transplant, Izzy would sink a hand into the vase and let the beads run over her skin. She liked the way they felt and the way they sounded. It was one of the few things she consistently enjoyed. I will probably never know if she liked they way they felt and sounded because they were mostly glass or because she had worked so hard to get each one. Perhaps it was a little of both.

Today as we left the hospital Izzy got her final bead. The bead for Completion of Treatment – the Purple Heart. As I held the tiny bead in my hand and read the card that went with it, tears filled my eyes:

“The purple heart originated as and remains a military decoration awarded to those members of the armed forces wounded in action. As a member of Beads of Courage your Completion of Treatment is also recognized by the prestigious purple heart.”

It has been twenty two months since the Star Slinky Photo was taken and I am not the woman that took that photograph anymore. But the woman I am now knows far more about innocence, stability and peace than she ever did because I have lived without them for most of this journey. The truth is I don’t want to be that woman anymore. This woman has a whole new appreciation for every breath, every laugh and every smile.

It is true that the future is still unknown for us. I don’t know how things will look in a month or even a year but I know this: I will walk forward celebrating the purple heart not fearing the anchor. She earned every bead in that jar except for that anchor and so I rebuke it and ask that it would sink to the deepest pit of hell never nearing her body again. I declare life over her and light within her radiating in such a way that there is no room for that anchor to ever take hold again.

Izzy can tell the closer we get to our house from Cincy by the things we pass along the way. This afternoon she got very excited as we got off on our exit, “I know this place. This is Indianapolis and this is where I belong.” Okay so it was Noblesville, but coming from a child who has earned over two hundred yellow beads sleeping in a hospital in another state it brought tears to my eyes anyway. I pray that she would always remain right here where she belongs. That her identity would continue to become more and more that of a little girl and less and less that of an oncology patient.

“But you are a chosen people, a royal priesthood, a holy nation, a people belonging to God, that you may declare the praises of Him who called you out of darkness into His wondeful light. ” 1 Peter 2:9

**I will still be writing some in the months to come. We have scans in a month and then again every few months for the next two years. Blessings to all of you who have followed our story so diligently, praying for sweet Israelle.



It is early Monday morning and I lay awake next to Izzy who is peacefully still asleep. We arrived to the hospital last night to begin preparations for the infusion that will begin in just a few hours. It is her fifth and final round of antibody. Our last round of treatment. It goes without saying that I cannot believe we have finally made it to this day. Come Friday this is what her treatment résumé will look like: two surgeries, six months of chemotherapy, a stem cell transplant, twelve rounds of radiation and five rounds of antibody. A résumé that proves she is resilient, that she is an overcomer and that she will fight for those things worth fighting for, her life included. That is a résumé more impressive than most of the grown ups I know.

Last summer shortly after her re-diagnosis, Izzy began to talk about rainbows. She had never seen one in real life and wondered if they were real. I thought if we could see one it would be a wonderful opportunity to talk to her about God’s faithfulness and became convinced I would find one for her.

I remember an evening last July that we arrived late to a wedding rehearsal because I had decided to chase a rainbow that I had seen behind some buildings. By the time the kids looked the buildings were blocking it so I got off the interstate and chased it for several miles determined for her to see a rainbow. It was almost as if I thought if I found one for her I could force God into promising me something. I remember that hot July day finally pulling off the road in defeat. Carter had seen the rainbow, but not Izzy. I was heartbroken.

More often than not it has been raining intermittently on our drives to and from Cincinnati so I began to believe that God would someday show us one in transit. I thought seeing one either to or from treatment would be a powerful symbol from The Lord. But in sixteen months we never did…until yesterday as we were driving down for treatment for the last time.

It was early evening and we were driving through splashes of both sunshine and rain. At first I saw only a glimpse of colors near a cloud but they were so faded I simply could not get Izzy to see what once was there. It was only a few minutes later that I saw the real thing. As I looked just over the steering wheel and to the left (only swerving occasionally in all the excitement) I saw a real live rainbow. It was like a waterfall that cascaded down from a cloud and landed in a patch of trees. It was faint at first but I got Izzy and my grandmother’s attention, still. The closer we got it began to brighten and the colors got so bold that she could finally see. She was elated…for five seconds. And that was it for her. She didn’t care. She listened to me talk for a bit about God and the meaning of a rainbow and then she put her headphones on and delve back in to Mary Poppins.

It wasn’t until late last night that I realized that while Izzy may have had the initial interest in seeing a rainbow it had clearly become my thing. The truth is, it may have been fun for her to see the beautiful colors but Izzy doesn’t need to see a rainbow in the sky to know God is faithful. She has seen His faithfulness continually over the past sixteen months in a way far more intimate. And while I would have rather taught her something myself about God in a way that was far less painful, God chose to do it a differently. The lessons she has learned from walking through this nightmare knowing He is beside us far outweighs anything I could have taught her by pointing to the sky.

All that said, I know the fight for Izzy’s life does not end here, so I will take that rainbow we saw yesterday as our own. I will choose to believe that us finally seeing it was a sign of God’s promise for better days.

Genesis 9:12-16 (NIV)
” And God said, ‘This is the sign of the covenant I am making between me and you and every living creature with you, a covenant for all generations to come:  I have set my rainbow in the clouds, and it will be the sign of the covenant between me and the earth. Whenever I bring clouds over the earth and the rainbow appears in the clouds,  I will remember my covenant between me and you and all living creatures of every kind. Never again will the waters become a flood to destroy all life.  Whenever the rainbow appears in the clouds, I will see it and remember the everlasting covenant between God and all living creatures of every kind on the earth.'”